This is not just another addiction self-help book. How To Stay Sober offers a roadmap to staying sober even after your treatment is finished. No excuses, no relapses. Start reading now.
This practical, hands-on guidebook is all about preventing relapses and staying sober long-term. It takes an innovative approach to treating alcohol and drug addictions and is written for people who tried traditional systems and failed to remain sober after they finished their treatment. Used together, the book and the workbook offer a structured roadmap to people with substance use disorders that helps them recover and stay clean. They outline realistic, actionable strategies and tips designed to reduce the risk of a relapse by changing your established thought patterns and habits and helping you stay motivated.
“The book is designed to bring the same excitement and energy into your recovery that you had when you were drinking and abusing drugs.”
What’s also unique about this book is that the author is not only a distinguished addiction expert with a solid academic track record and a thriving addiction treatment practice in Florida, but he also knows first-hand what it’s like to be an addict. For years, he battled his own alcohol addiction and therefore fully understands how difficult it is to stay sober after your treatment successfully ends. You are left all by yourself, trying to stay sober, one day at a time. The book, therefore, offers more than just a guided tour through addiction recovery. It provides real hope to people with alcohol and drug issues, reassuring them that they will be able to overcome their addiction for good.
“There are many alcoholics and drug addicts who swear that they never lied to anyone and that they were always upfront and honest about their alcohol and drug use. You may not have lied openly to the outside world, but you lied to yourself when you said, “I can quit anytime.” “I can have a few and stop.” “My marriage is the problem and not me.” All these were lies to yourself, and you have to admit the self-deception and the dishonesty to yourself and other people you harmed by your addiction lifestyle. Get a copy of How to Get Sober book and start changing your life for the better, one day at a time.” – Dr. Emmanuel Nzuzu, How To Stay Sober
The book is organized into five chapters. It includes inspiring real-life examples and case studies, questions for you to work through that will help you find out what is missing from your recovery, and motivating signposts to support your determination to stay clean. The workbook offers practical, straight-forward exercises that will teach you valuable skills essential for being able to stay sober permanently (18 exercises in total). These exercises are designed to help you to identify and change your repetitive, destructive thought patterns and to challenge and change your beliefs and habits that fuel your addiction and lead to relapses.
This first chapter, Recovery is Possible and Always Available, examines your reasons for seeking treatment and helps you define a clear, motivating recovery vision and intent statement that you can truly commit to. It questions your drivers for getting help because the reason to quit should be powerful enough to force you into action. Genuine willingness and motivation to commit to the process of recovery are critical because desire without willingness is not actionable.
The chapter helps you evaluate how honest you are to yourself about your addiction, motivation, and triggers, and encourages you to identify your daily recovery success factors. It also demonstrates the importance of animating and invigorating your intent by attaching a strong emotion to your recovery process – excitement, joy, anticipation, gratitude, and appreciation.
“Your personal reason to quit should inspire you to take a determined effort towards alcohol- and drug-free life.”
This chapter, Self-Diagnosis: How to Identify the Problem of Addiction to Alcohol and Drugs, addresses the challenge that people addicted to alcohol and drugs are often in denial about the extent of their problem. They may admit that they have an issue but tend to play it down and often genuinely believe that they can stop drinking and taking drugs when they choose to do so.
This self-denial is one of the main reasons why treatments don’t work. The chapter provides a checklist of alcoholism and drug addiction symptoms and many real-life examples that illustrate that the real problem is your powerlessness over alcohol or drugs and not something else. It also explains that it is the combination of bodily craving and mental obsession that makes you powerless over alcohol and drugs.
“You cannot solve a problem that you believe you don’t have. You cannot solve a problem the existence of which you deny.”
This chapter, More About the Problem: Consequences of Powerlessness, shows that the main consequence of your powerlessness is that your life as an alcoholic or a drug addict becomes increasingly unmanageable.
You begin experiencing poor physical, mental, and spiritual health, your financial situation declines, your relationships with yourself and with your family and friends deteriorate, you lose your job, house, and driving license, your marriage starts to disintegrate, and you lose love, respect, and trust of your loved ones.
“Your predominant and recurrent belief patterns help to make you sink deeper and deeper into alcoholism and drugs.”
This chapter, Solution: The Power of Believing, is about examining your core beliefs, predominant and recurrent thought patterns, and emotional reactions, and replacing your old belief system with entirely new, positive and productive, beliefs and traits. Many people get sober but do not work on changing their beliefs, and then are shocked when they relapse, even though it is not surprising.
Therefore, this chapter shows that to stay sober, you need to break up old patterns that engineered your drug and alcohol lifestyle; otherwise, they will always pull you back to alcohol and drugs. Sobriety requires that you see the world in a new light.
“Continuous sobriety comes from sustained and consistent strong new believing. The framework of mind that created addiction cannot help you to be sober.”
In the final chapter, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, the author invites you to revisit your decisions, choices, and actions from when you were using alcohol and drugs. Most of those choices were made within a framework of selfishness and self-deception, and were driven by fear, resentment, and pressure for immediate self-gratification. According to The Big Book of AA (Alcoholics Anonymous), selfishness and self-centeredness are the primary sources of trouble for any alcoholic, which equally applies to drug addicts.
The chapter examines what practical steps you should take to successfully and permanently tackle your alcohol or drug addiction, and how religion and spirituality can be used in recovery.
“This is a turning point where you have to make a clear decision about how you will live your life from this point forward.”